It might feel that everyone is happily married, or has a partner or boyfriend.
Of course, this wasn’t always the case for these individuals. Is there a secret to finding, creating, and sustaining a relationship?
Perhaps there is no secret, but two practices instead…
A practice is any repeatable activity that can be done regularly, than has a specific intention or objective. When taking on something new, a practice is incredibly important for keeping an idea, way of thinking, or specific actions alive.
Practice One: Develop your self-awareness
One practice to develop deeply (on your relationship journey – but also in your life) is self-awareness. Keep reading, discussing, investigating, exploring. Self-awareness sets the route of your relationship journey. Remember also that self-awareness isn’t just about how you act now, or plan for future situations. It is also about how previous choices determine our experience – from parents, when we’re young, through the challenging teenage years, and into adulthood. Our past doesn’t have to determine us – but you’ll need to consciously choose to put it aside. Understanding our past requires self-awareness.
Practice Two: Request Support
A second practice to develop is accepting support. Get help when you need it. There is so much material out there – blogs (like this one), videos, courses, coaching, books…the list goes on. Reading it is one thing – taking action is another. Use the material you find to know what you can be doing to move forward your relationship journey.
Also part of this practice is the idea of asking for help. The people who care about us, are desperate to help in as many ways as you can. Accept their help. To put you in the driving seat, make requests of the people around you, so they have the chance to make a contribution. There is only so far you can go by yourself!
So, the secret to finding, creating, and sustaining a relationship? There isn’t one. There are no hidden areas or shortcuts. Here’s what you need to do: create a commitment, take action consistently, and earn people’s trust. This will set up the opportunities around you – to find the one.
- Start a diary specifically reflecting on your commitment to be in a fulfilling relationship. It will enhance your self-awareness.
- Make a list of the people who are supportive in your commitment. What specific support could you ask for? Make one request this week.
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