Before coaching with James I was stressed, desperate and put pressure on myself and my relationship with my mother. I held so much significance about finding a man because people’s expectations. With James’ coaching, I have reconnected with my mother – I share everything with her: the dates, the ups the downs. It’s given me freedom around looking for a relationship. The result is, an increase in the quality of – and connection with – the men I meet. The conversations I have are authentic. All with my mum’s blessing! – Farisa
So before I had used the coaching I used to see the dating scene as overwhelming. I would keep myself busy with other stuff like work, friends and more work. I pretended that i was looking for a relationship, when in fact I was avoiding choosing. When I did the Be-Do-Have exercise, it was like I had a new confidence in myself cause I knew what I wanted. Guys showed up in a completely different way. I was dating more. And guys we’re asking me out! Not to sound cheesy but since I had the coaching, I’ve got engaged and we’re planning our wedding next year in Dublin. – Jen
I have always had the illusion that I knew who Mr. Right was for me. However, each time a relationship ended, I always thought I was the one to blame for not having met the guy’s expectations! After a really powerful conversation with James, two things became very clear to me: 1 – In all these years of dating, I had been meeting guys that were not REALLY my type. 2 – I didn’t know what I really REALLY wanted as a life partner (ouch!)
Making the be-do-have list gave me real clarity of the type of guy I would want to profoundly connect with! Needless to say, that soon after my conversation with James, I met Henrik. With him I get to experience all the wonderful things I was really craving for! We both are – simply put – at home with each other. A – soon to be four-year relationship that continues to grow and develop! – Usua (Note: She chose the pic to summarise their relationship. It lives above the hob in their home).
I found it hard to find a decent man so I approached James and took on his compliment challenge. I was surprised how easy it was and I actually complimented a stranger. James made me feel very comforted and supported during the coaching sessions and I have discovered my strengths which is useful in the dating scene but in normal day to day life too. During the time of my coaching I had a first date and it was surprisingly relaxed. I didn’t have the usual knot in my stomach and was able to just be in the moment and not second guess myself. I have realised as a result of the tools James has given me that my dating life is down to me and I am able to create opportunities. Thank you for all your help and support. – Emma