I help single women attract a great guy, so that they can share their life with someone.
What Is Coaching?
Coaching is causing someone to achieve their goals. It’s not therapy, it’s not counselling, and it’s not about being nice.
It is being of service. It is contributing to the personal development of someone else, in the area they choose.
According to the Oxford English Dictionary, the word coach is a horse-drawn carriage. It’s origin as a noun is:
Mid 16th century (in coach (sense 3 of the noun)): from French coche, from Hungarian kocsi (szekér) ‘(wagon) from Kocs’, a town in Hungary.
It creates the sense of moving from one place to another; of going on a journey.
As languages evolve, so ‘coach’ came to be used as a verb meaning to train or instruct a team or player. This secondary meaning includes to:
Give (someone) professional advice on how to attain their goals.
Now whilst I think advice is often ignored, and coaching is separate from advice, this dictionary definition gives you enough of a sense of what coaching is.
Choosing A Coach
If you’ve read this far, I would suggest that you have a commitment to creating a dream relationship. Perhaps you’ve searched online and read some articles. Choosing to work with a coach is an act of courage and takes a willingness to be vulnerable. It demonstrates your self-awareness. And in the area of relationships – even more so.
I could be a the right coach if you:
- are fed up of reading different books, watching various videos, trying lots of things – and nothing working,
- have a willingness to challenge yourself, play with ideas, and grapple with concepts
- notice the negativity that’s written about men, and you want a different way of looking at the whole area.
I might not be a fit if you:
- spend time with your friends being negative about how men are, and how they should be, retelling dating disasters,
- live in hope, and expect your relationship life to change without committing to taking serious action,
- approach life without integrity – your words don’t match your actions. You’re someone who chooses to live your life this way.
I know there is a lot of material about the area of relationships, and it can be overwhelming when looking for support. To help, complete this survey for you to see if I’m the right coach for you.
A Different Approach
I take a different approach than most relationship coaches. It’s based on these three ideas:
- I look from what makes you unique – your talents. As a certified Gallup Strengths Coach I use the CliftonStrengths assessment to identify your areas of brilliance. It’s my job to have you understand your talents, appreciate them, and leave you using them to feel great about yourself.
- I focus on the reasons behind motivations, thoughts or feelings. I do not believe in working on tactics and strategies of what to text, when to call, or conversation scripts. This is deeper work that requires self-awareness. This can be challenging.
- I coach people who are committed to being in a relationship. On the one hand this is a long-term project. On the other hand, miracles happen – but I suggest that we need to make the space for them to occur. Without a commitment, there is a little point using my material.
Whilst this is in the area of relationships – you will find it useful across your life.
Is This You?
I also have five criteria that show if I would be a really good fit to work with you.
- Integrity – your words match your actions. It could be that you’re up to big things in your career. At the same time, you know you won’t always keep your word – but maybe you’re the kind of person that clears it up.
- Contribution – your life isn’t just about you. There’s more than just the things you want. Perhaps you give time, help out your family, or you’ve created a proposal that made a difference to your workplace.
- Challenge – you want to move forward. You’re up for creating more. Perhaps you’ve run a marathon, climbed a mountain, or overcome a specific challenge. However it looks, you push and question.
- Action – you know that success is dependent on taking effective action. Maybe you’ve run a business, raised money for a charity, or been promoted at work recently.
- Humanity – you’re willing to embrace the whole experience – the good, the bad, and the ugly. It might be that you’re the kind of person who prefers the whole truth rather than sugar-coating.